Yes, we are engaged! He proposed and I said, “of course!”
James said he couldn’t wait any longer to NOT be engaged to me, so he proposed the very first day I was back for my summer visit! He got me outside with the ruse of “taking pictures” and dropped on one knee with the ring in hand. I knew he was going to propose this visit, but I didn’t think he’d do it within the first hour of getting home. My surprise in all the pictures is from seeing the ring, which surpassed all my expectations! He slipped the ring on my finger and then we both honestly completely forgot the entire experience haha! It happened so fast that we both can’t remember it hardly at all! The rest of the day was making phone calls to my family and a few select friends and texting others.
The last two weeks together have been wonderful in so many ways, and I’m dreading my flight home tomorrow afternoon. Long distance has always been hard and it definitely really sucks; sometimes it feels like I lead a double life, with a dating life in one state and a single life in another. Thankfully, this visit I get to fly home with a ring on my finger, and I truly hope and think that this daily physical reminder will help this last year or so apart be easier. We don’t have a date set, we first will be planning, then moving me to Georgia. James will also be finishing college before we are able to set a good date. Lord willing, though, we’ll be in the same state and closer than ever to married life within a just a couple years.
The ring was his great-grandmother’s, with a wedding band that goes with it that I will eventually also get to wear. It is over eighty years old (think 1930s) and incredibly unique due to when it was created. The band has so much little detail to it that I adore. We’re unsure if it’s white gold or platinum in the middle around the diamond, but I love how unique that is too. Honestly, the ring took my breath away when I saw it for the first, it sparkled in the afternoon sunbeams, and it’s so pretty to look at. I have been showing it off to all the family and friends I’ve seen here and everyone has all said how unique and gorgeous it is, which has made me so happy.
The best part about it, however, is just how important it is to the Corley family and how deep it is in their history. The fact that they all wanted James to give it to me is an incredible honor; like they’re placing their bets on me by letting me wear something so precious to them. It makes me feel so loved and accepted and wanted.
The last two and half years of long-distance dating has been a crazy one. Sometimes it has been hard, whether its simply missing each other so badly or when every single coworker I have questions my choices, doesn’t take us seriously because “you’re not having sex/not living together/you’re probably getting catfished/you don’t live in the same state” etc etc etc. Good times. Between the two of us, I’ve definitely had it worse when it comes to unsupportive people who couldn’t simply smile and say “good for you” when I said, “Yes I have a boyfriend, he lives in Georgia.” Thankfully, in my recent job I’ve been incredibly supported by bosses and coworkers alike in my relationship and its been nice. But its things like this, ON TOP of being sperated from my favorite person in the world for eleven out of twelve months of the year, that have often made this a very bumpy frustrating road.
Long distance is not for everyone, that is for sure. It is only for the committed, the ones truly in love, the ones who would rather gut out the pain with the hope of being together. You gotta be ready to tough it out, cry sometimes, skype a lot, and be honest and communicate quickly.
At any rate, it feels good to have made it so far since we met 7 years ago and I’m thrilled to continue pursuing my relationship with James for forever now. I’m really looking forward to when we’ll be living in the same town together, and build towards getting married and starting our own little household. I wouldn’t want to start one with anyone else on earth.
I’m the luckiest and happiest woman in the world! I love you so much, James! Thank you for loving me too!!!! ❤ ❤ ❤