So, I’ve been more active on my personal Facebook lately. In fact, this past year, I put a little time into making my Facebook dashboard a place I want to see, instead of the place I want to avoid. Because, you know, it’s my generation’s joke that Facebook is the last place you want to be. Noisy relatives, politics everywhere, just ugh…Facebook. It’s the social media site for “older people” now. 😄
I still feel that way about Facebook on occasion, but during the last few months, I took some time getting used to how the site worked and allowing myself FREEDOM to make it mine. Want to know my tricks? Well here’s how I did it.
1. I did NOT accept all the friend requests I had.
And I still don’t. This is hard to do; depending on the person, you might feel strong obligations to press accept even though you grimace at the sight of their Facebook wall. (I wish Facebook was like Twitter in that you don’t have to MUTUALLY SEE EACH OTHER’S CRAP IF YOU DON’T WANT TOO.) However, I made the choice that, even if it felt kinda awkward to delete that lady who I knew from church’s request, it ultimately was completely my decision to not have her guilt-tripping political reposts spamming my feed.
I have given myself the freedom to set boundaries or say that quiet “no thank you” in regards to the friend requests and it was very empowering! In this way, I have managed to keep that horrid spam of, “JESUS WILL BE SAD IF YOU DON’T SHARE THIS POST, HIT THUMBS UP NOW,” crap to a minimum on my dash. Now I see less negativity and garbage, and I love it.
I know not everyone might feel like they can just turn down friend requests, but I do strongly recommend always thinking about what you want to allow into your space. Surround yourself with healthy people and remove unhealthy people, just like you would offline too. ❤
2. I followed pages that post engaging and unique content that interested me.
One of the things that makes me excited to visit Facebook is that I now follow pages of COOL STUFF. Stuff that’s creative or inspiring, quotes and art and funnies, stuff I WANT TO ACTUALLY LIKE AND SHARE ON MY OWN PAGE. I took two different afternoons, and spent lots of time investigating and following page suggestions till I’d found and followed all the ones I liked. It took time, but it was worth it.
To list just a couple of my very favorites, I follow The Best of Tumblr, Word Porn, Personality Growth, Quotes n’ Nd Notes, Like a Boss Girls, Brain Pickings, and Laughing Squid. I get a constant new cycle of relatable and shareable quotes, unique and creative creations, and the best funnies ever from these places everyday. I share things from them often.
These and many others, like Food Network, Ellen DeGeneres, The Tonight Show, and Stan Lee’s page, fill my dash with new fun stuff, spreading out the political/religious barrage of junk that always seeps through no matter what. It makes me want to keep scrolling!
This ultimately was a huge game changer to making Facebook more enjoyable and I’m so glad I took the time to find fresh new content to enjoy.
3. I’m not afraid to share what I enjoyed seeing.
I know it’s annoying, that you see everything everybody likes and shares, but guess what. Two can play that game. I got tired of being sensitive of how I interacted on Facebook, afraid so-and-so wouldn’t like that I “liked” that post.
One day I stopped giving a crap. Other people, other Christians, other ADULTS, aren’t afraid to share the stupidest, lowest quality, guilt-tripping crap day in and day out… so why I should be scared to share a quote that I related too? So, I adopted a new motto for just Facebook: INTERACT WITH WHAT YOU ENJOY. DO IT BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. AND HELP CIRCULATE SOME BRAIN CELLS.
LOL ok, is that going to far? Nah, I didn’t think so. 😄
These are just three things I’ve done the last few months that have helped make my Facebook page a place that I want to interact on. I surprise myself by how often I check it now, and I enjoy sharing things and interacting with different friends on different posts about things I actually like. It’s become another place of self-expression, by being unafraid to share things I enjoy, which is empowering and encouraging to my growing identity as a young adult.
I like Facebook now. And that’s something I never thought would happen. 😉
How about you? Do you still loathe Facebook? Have you every tried one of these tricks to make it a cheerier place?